I’ve been a homemaker for about 2 years now, after 20 years as a professional hairstylist. It’s been a huge transition, and although it has largely been positive, there have been some challenges. After years of waking up early, doing a full face of makeup, dressing up and going to work with a coffee in hand, now I don’t have to get up at any specific time, and virtually everything I do can be completed in pajamas with my hair in a messy bun. While that may sound pretty appealing to someone who has to get up at the crack of dawn and go to work every morning, it can get almost depressing after a while.
The longer I stayed at home, the more I wanted to stay home. I’ve always been a pretty major introvert, so that’s not a big surprise, but it was bordering on becoming a hermit. I was in a major funk. I had lost my confidence and replaced it with anxiety and dreariness. I decided it was time to make some changes and take control back of my life. I am a couple of months into this transformation and I can’t tell you how much happier and more productive I am. I am getting up earlier, and getting more done. But the best part is, I feel more fulfilled at the end of every day. The changes were pretty simple, but they have compounded to make a huge impact.
5 Easy Ways To Boost Confidence
Wake up early, and get ready for the day.
After I quit working I stayed up late watching TV and slept in. My husband works overnights so he gets home early in the morning and doesn’t get up until noon or so. I felt like I had no real reason to get up, so I didn’t. I wouldn’t call myself a morning person, but my productivity is definitely higher in the morning. When I was sleeping in so late by the time I got up, made lunch and packed my husband’s dinner he was leaving for work and I was ready to call it a day.
I started by setting an alarm in the morning. Over time this righted my habit of staying up too late. I also started by at least styling my hair (even if it was just a styled, messy bun) and doing my makeup for the day. Just this little routine started to change my perspective, and suddenly I was springing out of bed a little easier, and was getting into a routine. During this time I read the book Atomic Habits, and it started to make sense why those seemingly insignificant habits were adding up to a big change.
Changing My Diet
Whenever I have had a stressful day my go-to routine is eating some comfort food and having a cocktail. I deserve to cheat if I’ve had a bad day, right? It’s hardly self-care to regularly indulge for several reasons. One, eating unhealthy food greatly exacerbates my existing health issues, And two, how often does one cheat meal end there? It makes it easier and easier to get off track. True self care looks like me taking my vitamins, eating my greens, and limiting foods that aren’t healthy for me.
Another major change I have made is increasing my water consumption. I’ve always been a pretty good water drinker, but some days I drink one bottle, and some days I drink 10. My goal is to drink at least a gallon a day, so I got this water bottle to make it easier to track how much I am drinking. It’s not great for on the go, but its amazing for those of us who work from home! It’s double walled so I can throw some ice in it and have cold water for hours without the bottle sweating. It has a straw so you don’t have to wear a back brace lifting it to drink.
Hair, Nails, Makeup
When I was a teenager I definitely struggled with self esteem and body image. As soon as I got a job with a regular income one of the first things I did was get my nails professionally done. I couldn’t believe what a difference something as small as getting my nails done impacted my confidence. Then I went to beauty school and did hair for 20 years. Between color stains, and broken nails and dry cuticles from all the water and chemicals my hands were exposed to it was almost impossible to have nice-looking nails.
About 6 months ago I discovered Red Aspen nail dashes and my nails have looked nice ever since. Nail dashes are essentially press on nails for grown ups. They are easy to apply, last up to two weeks, and look and feel like real nails. They range in price from $13-17, which is much cheaper than the manicures I was getting that wouldn’t last me more than a few days.
Limiting Social Media
Its no secret that social media can cause in security and depression. In this day and age it’s difficult to NOT value our worth based on likes and comments. It’s ingrained. So I am starting my new year off with a social media fast. I am going to stay completely off of Facebook, and seriously limit Instagram. It’s not because I feel they are negative to me, but because I want to reset how I use them. Instead of looking at my phone the minute I wake up and as I am falling asleep at night, I want to devote more time to positive pursuits. In short, I just don’t want to waste so much time getting sucked into social media.
Investing In Myself
I am also starting to invest in myself in things like courses and classes, taking more time to read, and taking care of myself physically. I’ve wanted to improved my skills with Adobe Suite for years, but I didn’t want to spend the money on classes. If I added up all of the impulse purchases I have wasted money on in the past year, I could pay for classes 10 times over. Instead of balking at education or even taking the time to do a face mask I am going to jump at the chance to improve myself. And hopefully take a step back before making those frivolous impulse purchases.
These 5 easy ways to boost confidence have really been life-changing for me. I hope they inspire you to make similar changes!