Welcome to day 4 in my 31 day series on learning to be positive. Click here if you would like to start at the beginning!
We have already discussed that being positive does not come naturally for most people. So to keep your mind in a positive state, it’s important to live with intention and set yourself up for success.
I don’t have a complete plan in place, but there are a few things I intentionally do to keep joy in my life and stay positive.
Remember that I am the daughter of a King.
That phrase used to sound a little cheesy to me, but I find myself repeating it more and more. We have been bought and paid for with the blood of Jesus Christ, and that is something we all take way too lightly. When I find myself having a “woe is me” day, thinking about the fact that I have been shown the ultimate mercy, and been given the ultimate gift often snaps me back into perspective. Your life is precious, because a very high price was paid for it. Don’t waste is dwelling on everything that is wrong.
Stay away from jerks.
The is a meme circulating Pinterest that says something to the effect of, “If you think you are depressed, first make sure that you aren’t just surrounded by a bunch of jerks.” Ok, it doesn’t say jerks, but let’s keep it G rated here. The sentiment of the statement is really true. Negativity attracts negativity, so it stands to reason that you should stay away from negative people. But don’t feel guilty about jettisoning people who are just bad friends. Very little is more soul-sucking than a friendship that is one-sided. People who only call when they want something, people who only want to talk about themselves … Don’t feel guilty about getting rid of them, or at least distancing yourself from them. If you aren’t lifting them up, I guarantee they are pulling you down.
Write in a gratitude journal.
A habit I am trying to get into is writing in a gratitude journal every day. I use an app on my phone, but a notebook and pencil would be fine too. List 5 things you are thankful for every day. Some days I have trouble coming up with 5. Isn’t that sad? I live in the wealthiest country in the world, I am blessed with a beautiful family, I own my own, successful business, and I could go on and on and on about the many ways I am blessed. Yet it’s so easy for me to focus on what I don’t have, or my wants that I think are needs. Or what the people in my life do wrong, instead of what they do right.
I was recently challenged by a friend to start writing down 5 positive things about my husband every day. I begrudgingly started doing it, and while it has not revolutionized my marriage overnight, it has made me stop and think before a criticism comes out of my mouth.
These are just a few ideas of way you can inject some positivity into your day. It’s about living intentionally, and not just expecting unicorns and rainbows to fly out of your butt every day.
I challenge you to sit down and make a list of ways that you will choose to be intentionally positive today. And I would love it if you would share them!
This is day 4 in the series 31 Days Of Learning To Be Positive. Click here to check out the entire series.