I read the 5 Love Languages when my husband and I were dating to try and gain some insight into what makes a healthy relationship. I loved it! It made so much sense, and dramatically changed the way I related to people.
So when the opportunity to review The 5 Love Languages for Men came across my desk, I was instantly interested. When I read further and saw the stipulation that my husband had to read and review it, I was sold.
My poor, patient husband read the book and even finished in the allotted time. He spent well over an hour in the hotel computer room writing his review, and I am so proud of him!
The 5 Love Languages for Men
Words of Affirmation: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Words of affirmation in the most general definition of it means words are powerful and impact people in different ways, whether good or bad. I think that it is one of the most dynamic Love Language that someone can have. It is really powerful and moving that the words you use can change people’s ideas and how they look at life, and how they feel about the person saying those words. I feel that this is probably my personal Love Language because I am always looking for some sort of approval and I have a drive to be noticed for doing things. I like to use my words as encouragement and not as a weapon. When I do something right or wrong I want to hear verbal confirmation from others on how they feel about it, not because I don’t know, but because I want to hear that confirmation from another person, especially my wife.
Quality Time: Quality is key to this Love Language. It’s not that you just spend time with someone, it is what you do with that time and what is your priority during that time. If you go for a walk or out to dinner with your spouse but are texting, or doing other things that have nothing to do with the other person, it really won’t mean a lot to them. It is important to find and keep your focus, and to use that time wisely, in a meaningful way. Focus, listening sympathetically, and asking questions with a real desire and intent to understand are the most important things to look at when learning about the language of quality time.
Physical Touch: For someone whose love language is physical touch, something as simple arm squeeze or back rub can show them love. Physical contact for someone with this as a love language can have the potential to thrill, change mood, even brighten a whole day. Most importantly it can make them feel LOVED. Reactions to getting snubbed can be taken as a personal rejection, even if the snub was unintentional. It can cause that person to lose self-esteem. Not all touches are the same to a person with physical touch as their love language. They can tell when it is a loving touch or something else is behind the physical interaction. Just because a touch brings pleasure to you doesn’t mean they will take it in the same way. It is important that you learn to know what that person wants in the physical touch area and what shows them love.
Gift Giving: To a person whose Love Language is gift giving, it’s the not the amount of gifts or even the price of those gifts that is important to them; it is how they are given and the thought behind the gift that is important. When getting a gift for that person, look at it as an investment in your Love and make it personal so they know that it is from your heart.
Acts of Service: This is my wife’s Love Language and is still one that I have trouble getting just right because it tends to clash with my primary love language. Where I look for confirmation in the acts that I do, she is just looking at my acts of service and the intentions behind them. When you say that you are going to do something for that person or they ask you to do something it means to get it done when you say or when you are asked and making it a priority to you. Also when asked to do something for this person, do it willingly and without attitude, with a smile and eagerness. Perform acts of service humbly and without complaint, because the person with this love language will value sincerity.
That was his take on the book. I haven’t read it yet, but I have seen a definite difference in my husband. He has really tried to be more intentional with speaking my love language. He even filled my car up without me having to ask!
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