Ever Feel Like The Odd Mom Out?

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Odd Mom Out

Ever feel like you don’t fit in ANYWHERE in the mommy/Christian/crunchy world? I do. Quite a bit.

I don’t fit the typical hairstylist stereotype. I’ve been very successful at what I do, but I don’t have blond hair teased out to there, or a trendy haircut for that matter. I’m not some cute, little fashionista that lives for the next issue of Glamour.

You all know I LOVE essential oils, but I don’t really fit that crowd either. I’m not an outgoing salesperson, I don’t have 4 kids in the back of my slick new SUV, and I can’t afford to order $400 of oils a month.

I don’t fit in at church. I feel to churchy for some people, and WAY not churchy enough for some. I don’t like the social bullying that goes on in churches. I feel most churches are businesses with a cross placed on the roof. I go to church but I don’t feel welcome there. I continue to go in solidarity with those who may feel exactly like I do.

I definitely don’t fit in with homeschoolers. I only have 1 biological child, and *gasp* she has a cell phone. We don’t drink raw milk, and I work outside of the home. Recently I took the kids to a local park. There were 3 or 4 families there with moms, and they were very vocal about being homeschoolers. I sat on a bench and watched as they shooed their children away from where mine were playing, and talking loudly about the Christian colleges they had attended, and what theology books they were reading. Really? Is it the fact that my lip is pierced? Am I too fat to fit the Christian homeschool mom stereotype?

Some days I feel more ostracized than others. I have a great, close circle of friends, family, and always amazing clients, so I’m not QUITE ready to get a cabin in the woods and plan a bombing, but I still never quite feel like I fit in.

Hebrews 13:14 says:

“For this world is not our permanent home; we are looking forward to a home yet to come.”

Amen! Do you feel comfortable? Maybe you shouldn’t! As Christians we are not made to live here! There should always be that feeling that this isn’t quite right, and there is something more. 

I’m not excusing the fact that if you feel like you don’t belong you may in fact, just be surrounded by jerks. That is a succinct possibility.

I’m just encouraging you to always strive for whats to come, don’t get mired down and content with the garbage here on earth. Because that is all it is! Meaningless garbage. 

Isaiah 55:9:

“For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”

Revelations 21:1-5

“Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.”

We live in a sinful world, with sinful people. Whether they are Christians or not! They will disappoint, they will hurt, they will fail you. The trick is finding that balance between fulfilling the purpose God has for you here, and longing for our heavenly home.

Do you often feel like the odd man out? You’re in good company! Please connect with me on Facebook or in the comments. 🙂


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Hi! I'm Melissa!

Melissa is a former hairstylist of 20 years who has a passion for living a simply creative life. She loves inspiring others to pick up a planner and get their lives organized, to clean out a closet and minimize their clutter, and to clean up their physical and mental space to lead their most fulfilled life. She is a wife, mom, and crazy dog lady who constantly rewatches The Office.



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